Quoting tbone: Women, in general just seem to have a very, very hard time with "I'm sorry". I have seen it time and time again.
Yeah, what's up with that? I always thought that it was men that were supposed to be the stubborn ones and that me and my W had the whole thing backwards.
Quoting tbone: In reality though, no one wants to keep being forced to say it over and over again. Keep that one on mind too. You deserve to hear it often but she did it already, right?
Yeah, kinda sorta. On D-day, and maybe in the days following, she was sorry that I had gotten hurt. But that was more like "I'm sorry you found out" than "I wish I'd never done this". She was also sorry that I found out because (if she is to be believed) she was probably going to end the A and my finding out made coming back to me harder. And she has said, in other words, that she's sorry in the sense that nobody (including me, maybe, but especially her and the OG) would have gotten hurt if she hadn't had an A. But what I want is a deeper sense of sorrow.
Here would be a suitable little monolog (she'd be bawling as she delivered it, naturally):
"I'm so sorry for all the pain I've caused you. I realize now that my betrayal was so wrong. I realize that what I did will take years to repair. I'll never do anything like that ever again. I can't believe that I almost destroyed our M. I was a completely out-of-control self-righteous selfish bitch. I wish from the very depths of my soul that I had not done this. I would give my right arm if I could take it all back. I can't believe that you were so patient and understanding, that you put up with so much. You are so wonderful. You are so much better than the OG. You are smarter, funnier, more fun to be with, better looking, and way way better in bed. Will you ever forgive me?"
Yeah, that'd do it.
OK, enough fantasy. In the real world, I'd settle for the 1st 5 lines of that if she'd follow it up with great sex!
