Ken's situation - Live-in WAW

[healthydad]

In case anyone is wondering - here's the map from MfT:
It's in KenF's thread.


http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1509472&page=1&fpart=10

there is a map..

1. Leave your emotions.
2. Detach-drop the rope-let it go.
3. Gal
4. Gal with the kids.
5. take care of yourself
6. Validate and empathize.
7. most important--don't bite when they bait you.
8. don't argue when they rewrite history.
9. get yourself in good physical shape.
10. let them think you are ok and will move on.
11. don't talk to close freinds and family about your sitch.
12. vent here not at your W or kids..

start connecting the dots on the map..

If you can do all that with "no Emotion" then you have a shot at them coming out of their fog.

If you can't drop your emotion and fight, defend, pick up the bait..like all men are prone to do then IMO you chances are not good.

No Emotion/detaching..those are the best chances. Those are key.