Thanks for stopping by, especially with all the stuff you are facing now in your own situation. I do think our W's are similar, my situation is just chronologically farther along than yours.
Quote: wonder if that has been an issue for your W. does she truly feel deep within without any doubt that you love her. problem is, that is something that words can't convince her of. she needs time and actions if that is one of the issues. this has been a problem for me in my M. sound familiar?
I don't think my W questions my love for her anymore (she used to). She still questions whether some of my changes will be long lasting ones, but she doesn't question that I love her.
Quote: i will keep up with yours and try to offer you the vantage point of where you have been (because all things tend to dull in time and you may become less aware of how much progress you really have made).
Thanks. I know that to you, being in all-out crisis mode, the less-critical problems that many people on the Piecing board face might be problems you'd be all too happy to have to face. I remember reading certain posts of Sage (Sage, OK if I use you here as an example?), and reading about so many good things happening in her situation and thinking that despite her perception that things weren't going that well, that in fact they weren't just going well, they were going GREAT! It all depends on your perspective, I guess. Once you get to a certain level of stability, you want more. Sort of a case of the more you have, the more you want. No longer will I be satisfied with a so-so marriage - I want a great marriage. So even though we're past the most critical stage (the "is my W leaving me forever" stage), the ongoing issues still seem pretty damn important. It'll be the same for you, no doubt. But thanks for the reminder, yes, the progress we have made is truly wonderful.
