You really drove home the detachment thing for me and I printed out the map that you recently wrote. I'm not sure you know how much you have helped me - both in my thread and all the threads where you've helped so many people.
I was so afraid of me going over to my brothers house but the seperation has really helped both of us. She has had the space and time to think and reflect on things and it has given me a new perspective of being able to let go. It has given me the opportunity to really step out of the middle of the situation and do some soul searching. It's how I discovered my unhealthy connection that I had to my wife and how to remove it. It's also given me an opportunity to really see alot of my issues and how to work on improving myself.
It took the edge off our situation and dropped the stress level way down for the both of us.
I only agreed to do it because she was saying it's what she needed and I can see it was a true act of giving on my part. I put my fears and worries aside to give her what she said she wanted. And in return, I got the bonus of seeing it's exactly what I needed also. I think I worked on keeping an open mind and to not project the worst possible scenario.
Wow - Ken - this is just incredible. You've completely summed up the value of detachment in a way that I just couldn't complete grasp until I read this...I'm going to copy and paste these words together with MfT's road map.
