You've got to write a lot more than that before it's rambling!
Detach, I think that is a key word for you. Really do your best to not let his actions, or words, or inactions, impact how you feel. Move your focus to yourself, and those kids!
And you have it, it is ALL about him right now. You can't change that. But, when the situations arise, you can validate that he is allowed to FEEL the way he does. Don't tell him you disagree with him, or what he is doing. That isn't going to help, even if you are perfectly justified in feeling the way you do!
And, thanks for coming by my thread! Stop by any time!
