Originally Posted By: Julz13
He would like for her to terminate like she had originally planned. But he knows he can't push that on her. OW in my sitch actually talked about this too, but H wouldn't tell her to do it and she eventually admitted that it was never an option in the first place.

He is actually wanting to stand up and pay child support and be involved if possible. My H is willing to stand up and pay child support too, I'm not sure what involvement he is planning, I guess it depends on where he lands.

And she will supposedly not accept any money. (ha! she has no clue!) Wow, do they pass out a script at Pregnant OW Camp? H's OW has told him that she doesn't expect anything from him, etc...

He also doesn't want anyone to know about it. Hmmm...same script at Cheating Bastard Camp too I see.

He feels that this is his child and his responsibility. Ditto


But he has also wondered if she didn't do it partly out of a need/want for some $$$ - the Troll (my affectionate title for my H's Biatch) is also a hopelessly addicted gambler, so that may have something to do with it also.

I am a little more skeptical about her motiviations, but hey...I'm just a woman.

ANYWAY...sorry for the sarcasm, its just how I deal with things.

I really think that if you and your H are going to get through this then you need to present a united front and both be ok with the decisions that are made concerning this issue. Its great that you have faith, because you are going to need it.

I have never been tested more than I have in the last 9 months. Getting back to church (introducing my kids), going to C and this site have kept me off of the news and out of the penitentiary.

Are you planning on any C? Either IC or MC? If not, you may want to rethink that. Something I am dealing with right now too is how to break it to my DD7, who doesn't know. DS12 was told in a totally insensitive way by my H, but it also has a lot to do with his addiction (his behavior is erratic these days, at best). So there are a lot of things to consider and it would make it SO much easier if you and H were on the same page. My H and I don't even seem to be in the same library half of the time.
(((Julz))))

Last edited by Sugar and Spice; 08/01/08 04:15 AM.
M:39
H:39
K:S14;D8
T:22yr
M:15yrs
S:12/28/07 EA/PA
3/14/08 OW preg
11/17/08 born
12/12/08 his
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