Help...I think I did a 180...I hope

[Sophie]

Detachment is the key. Detachment is the hardest part of this whole process, particularly when you've been a team for a long time. You need to get to the point where you can see what he does and hear what he says - but not let it touch you.

Have you read DB? If not do so. If you have, review the stuff about detachment.

Yes, yes:) I have and I do read, read, read...I feel pretty comfortable with my detachment from H's 'stuff'.

But...I am in desperate need of working on letting go of/detaching from resentment and hurt from the affair over 3 years ago...and the simple fact that he walked out on us.

I can see that if a mature, together, grown man has made a decision of the heart, for the utmost good of...bottom line...his children...it would not be one that leaves all the tasks of everyday life, school, etc...the chores of keeping up a house on 1 1/2 acres to his wife and young sons.

So...I find it easier to have compassion for a confused man and that H is not thinking of anyone else but himself. It's the time of the 'season' for him. You know...seasoning him for the 'ripe old age' LOL

And, that helps detach from taking it all on myself.

Now...I would like to 'chill' out a bit...on life.

Oops...kind of rambled there...