Hello everyone thanks for the kind words and for checking in on me. I think about you all frequently.

You were all right. H contacted me a few days ago and said that he is breaking up with OW. Said that he thought he could change her but she has became violent on him. He also said that he is trying to get out of the lease for the house he and her had rented together. The lease starts tomorrow but he says he can't stand living with her anymore. Something about how her kids are always using his soap! (sound familar???)

Then tonight he calls and asks me if there was anyway we could get back together. I really couldn't believe it. I am really confused and feeling bad that I didn't wait longer to file for divorce. If only I had held out a month or two more. But I told him there wasn't a chance of that because I he cheated on me twice among other things. But I told him that I will always be his friend and be there to listen. I then told him that I was thinking that maybe we should have been just friends in the first place and never married. We always were just such great friends but never had any romantic or sexually chemistry. He sounded so hurt when I said that, but honestly more and more I have came to that conclusion.

I have been talking to him a lot. He says I am the only rational person in his life. I don't know if it is bad that I am so willing to listen to him. This big part of me just feels sorry for him. We all knew this would happen and I even predicted it would happen before the divorce was final (I was right). All of this would come crashing down and he would realize the truth.

The one thing that just has made me happy is that I have talked to my old husband again. Not the mean person that I was talking to a few months ago, but the man that I met in 2001. He kept telling me how sorry he was for everything and how he thinks there has been something mentally wrong with him. All I said was that something had to be mentally wrong for him to be willing to give up someone so special (me).

Sara

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08