Thank you, V for telling me some good, truthful, constructive stuff.

I didn't think of the text as 'having the last word'...but, I can see that H would take it that way.

It is still bothering me today, though, that he bashed my personality as being unpleasable, ever...and that I am such a B***tch to ALL of my friends.

I guess there must be some truth to that and I feel hopeless in EVER being a pleasent person.

But.. now is time to work on letting go of many things...resentment being top of the list!!

Please chime in with more+++K?

Sophie

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Me-50
H-38
Married 15 years 8/7/08
D8
S10
S13
H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer
H moved out 4/06

7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly
10/30/08 H signed D papers
11/10/08 D papers filed
11/13/08 D papers served at home