Yet, when I am nice and agreeable....H feels like crap for huritng me.
There's a clue ...so keep being nice and agreeable - nice agreeable people are signficantly more desirable as life partners than cranky disagreeable people.
I just wanted to chime in on the control thing. I think you are spot on with understanding you need to "let go". It was interesting that even when you did let go yesterday and decided to let him take the kids without you - you still had to have the last say and texted him that stuff about how you dont' agree with him.
When you say "I don't agree" he hears "I think you are wrong."
Next time - remember you don't always have to have the last word.
Good luck.
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