Oh! Important note!!!

I am not suggesting you try the "shape up or ship out" confrontation, as just a "tactic".
You should only do that, if you really mean it. If you really mean that if he says no, you're outta there.

Firstly, because I think saying it when you dont mean it, is ... well, wrong, for want of a more precise word.

Additionally, because it is said that "they" can tell when you dont mean it, so it would be worse than a wasted effort. damages your credibility if you arent prepared to follow through.

Hope you make the best choice for you, Trix.

catch ya later...


My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle