Seperated-WAH in MLC-where do I belong?

[Sophie]

Hi Lolal

Thank you for saying HI.

Last night I found this on forgivenss while searching through the boards. I too fight the word 'forgiveness' thinking that it means what the other person did is okay with me. And, how do you forgive someone who keeps do the same thing, or doesn't even feel they have done anything wrong?

Anyway, this made some sense..something I can hold on to. Maybe you've read this before:
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What is forgiveness?

There's no one definition of forgiveness. But in general, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentments and thoughts of revenge. Forgiveness is the act of untying yourself from thoughts and feelings that bind you to the offense committed against you. This can reduce the power these feelings otherwise have over you, so that you can a live freer and happier life in the present. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
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Doesn't forgiving someone mean you're forgetting or condoning what happened?

Absolutely not! Forgiving isn't the same as forgetting what happened to you. The act that hurt or offended you may always remain a part of your life. But forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness also doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act.