I have checked the account and there is still no money. If there isn't tomorrow I will pay in £100 as I am not getting a bad credit rating over this which is just enough to cover things and just leave him in his cave/ funk for a bit. In a week, if I still have heard nothing, I have a small gesture planned. I will send him an email telling him I went to see Batman (as he told me he had gone to see it) and chat a little about that. I also thought I could offer for him to come and visit the cat one evening sometime and I'll go out so he can spend some time with her. I'll word it in a better way. He loves the cat and misses her and I thought it might be a nice gesture. It depends whether you feel that it might think he may feel that as pressure - it is a take it or leave it offer though.
I also think this might work because I think my h's primary love language is Receiving Gifts, so I hope that these small gestures will help to fill up his love cup
I know you're frustrated, but this is a great idea.
He's probably going to expect that you'll be texting him over the bank account, and it will be such a nice surprise that it's this friendly, really sweet offer from you. It's a perfect 180, way to introduce novelty.
He might not show or tell you this (no expectations), but I would bet anything it will surprise him and make him feel good.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
