Somehow I knew you'd be OK. You're such a strong one!
I'm so glad that embracing your feelings for H has helped you get some peace/relief- that's such a big thing to have isn't it? I think I feel somewhat the same about mine......and I can't hate him, much as friends/family think I should.
DB Coach tonight said she thought H deserved my compassion. That he's trying to grow up and deal with his issues and I could be part of the solution. I wonder sometimes if your H is in the same place? It might explain some of his confusing behaviour and inability to let go.... (?)