"So she just called me and basically wants me to close our joint account and for me to cover the mortgage that is due tomorrow and that she just walks away from all of our marital obligations prior to any settlement or judgement. I had to inform her of the facts so now I am manipulative."
Well the first thing is you can't close the joint account.. both of you will have to go to the bank and have it closed together.. Do not do this unless specifically directed by your L.
As far as the mortgage.. and her new lease.. its easy to make plans if you can just walk away from things. She is responsible for whatever bills are due now.. just like you.. whatever debt.. you have right now.. she shares in.. sucks she had to learn about it now. If she thinks it is manipulative.. let her.
Don't let this phase you. It does bring about a bit of a slap in the face though doesn't it. It just shows how much thought is really happening in her mind right now.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
