Hi Sophie,


MLC seems like a good place, Seperated would work. Anywhere you really feel comfortable...

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I don't believe I am as controlling over you, the kids, or my friends, as you make me out to be....also,


Sorry, doesn't matter what you think, it is what he thinks.

I know there is the theory about believing none of what an MLC says, well I believe it is in context of what they are talking about. As soon as they start complaining about the LBS it is time to perk your ears up, and listen, because they are telling you what they feel is wrong, and what bothers them about their spouse.

On self introspection the things that 'sting' are the things that usually have a grain of truth to them.

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Why does H get to pick and choose when and how long he spends time with his kids?


Short idea: possible MLC.

Longer idea: If he truely feels that you were always controlling then he might be rebelling.

DBing is about becoming a better person. I have no regrets for having done this, having to look into the mirror and realzie that no I wasn't this great husband or father or guy.
Now I am, but I am still trying to be better.

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I can't get the hurtful things he said about never being able to please me


If it is not true, then do not worry about it.
If it true, then work on it.

Last edited by Jack_Three_Beans; 07/31/08 07:53 PM.

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