I'm one year out also. I'm thinking the thing I want the most from a relationship is total honesty - good or bad.
If asking her isn't an option, could you ask her to go to dinner sometime to discuss your feelings, etc.
I have thought about asking, but I am afraid of the answer I may get. I am kind of in a stall pattern. Hoping that she will see the positive changes that I have made and that someday she will want to come back to me. The bad thing is that she is a very head strong person and does not show or express her feelings, even when asked. Only on a few very rare occasion has she truly opened up and shared her true feelings to me. She has a tough shell around her.
I have got to make strides in winning back her trust and making myself attractive to her again, before I see any chance of her opening up to me. She is very guarded right now and may be for sometime. Honestly my biggest dilemma that I am faced with is what steps I need to take to make her attracted to me again. I know she has feelings for me and she deeply cares for me, but the attraction has been lost. When she feel in love with me over 17 years ago I was shocked then that someone like her could be interested in someone like me. We were only 20 then and things were much simpler. We were both crazy for each other. I have no idea how to begin recreating that which we had 17 years ago. I am in no hurry and for now time is on my side. I just have to find a game plan and go from there. Honestly though, I am not finding it to be an easy task.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
