Oldtimers: Return or not..what finally happened?

[Sanderika]

Hi Barb,

Another informant last night told me that my H and his OW were going on vacation next week together, actually are leaving tomorrow. Told me that they are going to a national motorcycle rally 2100 miles away from here.

I called my H left him a voice mail and confronted him with the info. I told him while he was gone I would be filing for a D. I asked him to call me back and tell me how he would like to be served. I wished him well. Told him to have a happy B-day, a wonderful vacation and a happy 3rd anniversay. Told him I loved him but that wasn't enough anymore. My S12 would be well taken care of and not to give him another thought.

My H called me back denying the vacation. (I know he was lying) Told me if I wanted a D to go for it, might as well. H said it's been 3 yrs and he can't live like this anymore. Said he has watched me carefully and has noticed all the changes and differences. Admitted he has feelings for me. Said it was a hard question to answer whether he loves me. I asked if he wanted to marry OW twice. He emphatically and loudly said NO each time. We talked for an hour and then got cut off. I haven't heard from him since.

I was waiting for a sign. My sign arrived and I took action. I am sick to my stomach today. I hate the way this has happened. I can't back out now. I am going to make the appt. and move forward with that.

My H will be a very sorry man. I know he is not happy and I don't imagine this will make him any happier either. I know OW is a demon and OW is going to destroy him.

Thank you for your advice.

Sanderika