What type of help are you looking for? Validation for your stance or encouragement and strength to attend a function for your grandchild?
I am divorced and have been for 5 years. My daughter got married almost a year ago and, the Lord willing, grandbabies will be part of our future. There is absolutely no way I would allow anything to keep me from seeing and spending time with my children or my grandbabies.
I have, since the divorce was final, not allowed my X's presence to interfere with my involvement in my children's lives. Plus I think it is pretty funny knowing full well that he and his new wifey are always way more uncomfortable than I will ever be.
If you want to heal and be a part of your grandbabies lives {as well as your children's lives} you will have to take the steps that will allow that. That means attending the party for the little guy. Even if you don't stay long you should attend. Attending the party could be the first step in establishing new relationships with your children.
Take a deep breath, buy a fabulous outfit, get a mani/pedi and go with a smile on your face.
You might also want to put this post on Surviving. There are many caring people there who have been or are in this exact position who can and will offer you guidance and support. ~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
