I know I am pursuing, but I continually hear from her criticisms of how I didnt show I cared for her, or she didnt realize how much, I didnt command the schedule, didnt communicate well, stuff like that. Thus, to me, backing off and doing nothing reinforces that. Not sure where to go on this, but I cant stand sitting around waiting. I'm sure the 180 for her will be seeing me with someone else. But I just am not interested in that yet. We had a separation for about this period when we were dating long ago. I cannot remember what it was that brought her back. I believe it was when I gave up and started moving on.
I have been very busy, not only by myself, but with my kids when they are here. I dont know why I went through a stage of about two weeks where I really missed her.
My W is acting more normal than when she was during the bomb. At bomb time, she started acting like high school kid with money. Partying all the time, connecting with every friend she has ever met, and trying to travel as much as possible. Now she is working more (probably because to live her desired lifestyle, it costs $$), going over to her parents cabin whenever she can. Thats a good sign to me because it means she's likely not hitting the dating circuit back here. I dont know how much partying she is doing or how late she's staying out because she's not here and I havent been asking. So maybe to me she's acting more normal because I cant see whats going on. What I get from my kids when they are there is that she's not doing much. Last night at dinner she barely finished one glass of wine. She would normally whip through at least two.
Where are you in your sitch? I know we were on similar timelines at one point. I was very angry and I dont know why I'm not anymore. I guess I have just come to accept this. I will be fine, she has a lot of surprises left in store for her. I mean financially. She wont be able to live the way she was just because she will have to work a ton to do it, throw some kids lives in there, and you pretty much have no time or energy for anything else. I think she will find the grass is not greener, just dont know if I can wait that long.
