Michelle Thanks. Yes only 28 Concert or Streets would be fun!!
Oldtimer Wow... you are so good. How on earth do you know what I'm feeling even more clearly than I do?? Thank you so much. I like that a lot and will try to put it in my own words.
Ellie Thanks for the heads up. Done, and I'll reply more soon.
Poet The "no emailing" thing is relatively new. I don't know if it's always been a rule and they didn't enforce it before, or if it's a new rule, but a lot of us exchanged email addresses in the past when it was allowed (or not enforced).
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Nik B - I've never posted on your thread before, but i've seen a lot of your posts here and to other people. I'm so happy for you. I read this yesterday afternoon and it really gave me a lot of hope!!
ann
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
"Wow... you are so good. How on earth do you know what I'm feeling even more clearly than I do?"
You pretty much said all of that in your post. The problem here is that while you communicate it pretty directly here, you don't send it along to H, lol.
OT - true. I've always been better at expressing stuff in writing, that's for sure.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Ann - thanks for visiting! I'm glad it gave you some hope.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
sounds like your backslide wasn't that bad too me. Who wouldn't be upset with seeing that when your expecting he was done. Although, there's the key... "expecting".
If you bring up the subject again, I would make it as quick and direct as possible. Perhaps you could even ask him what he was planning on doing different to build your trust for him back? I would tell him that the real problem is what you are both expecting. You had assumed he was done, which meant absolutely no non-related work contact, but he wasn't. So perhaps ask him what he thinks you should expect from him.
That's how I always brought stuff up, if it was touchy. I would ask H what he thought was appropriate/right. Then he wouldn't immediately be on the defensive.
anyways, I still think you did pretty good though... the text comment was overdone, as you were just trying to make him feel better, and you weren't being 100% honest... because you know you haven't gained ALL that trust back.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Thank you so much SG!!! OMG you're right.. 06. Ack.
I'll reply to everyone else soon. Thanks for posting!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Concert or Streets would be fun!! 
