Helping a woman reach her very first climax is a very rewarding experience. The reward is knowing that you have given this to her. It is a gift to her; you are not doing it for yourself but for her. Years ago I had a girlfriend who had never climaxed before in her life. I think the reason was she had always been with those doofuses to which DQ was referring; they just never took the time to find out what felt really nice to her. They were taking pleasure not giving it. I'm glad I got to give this to her.... so was she!
My experience has been that for some women it takes a certain amount of pressure and tempo for them to O. Once they let you know what their ideal pressure/tempo is (this part is up to her as DQ said) you must keep that going consistently for as long as it takes to O. It could take 20 minutes. The doofus just won't put in that much effort or maybe just doesn't have the stamina. And I'm talking about manual or oral stimulus here.
