Just so you will know and understand that I am not bashing men...
I want to admit that I HAVE BEEN TOTALLY IGNORANT IN MY PAST AS WELL!
I did not realize that not all men are the same, that they have different needs, desires, etc. When I was younger and completely ignoramous, I thought all men were like my husband being that he was my only real experience for a long time. Therefore, whatever made him O, the way he liked it, the amount of time it took him, etc....I thought that was "how men are".
I didn't realize that other men may be different, take longer or shorter to get off, had different needs, likes, dislikes.
As stupid as that sounds, that is how stupid I was. And there were lots more stupid things I assumed, based only on what I had seen first hand.
So...I myself was one of the ignorant people, and if I could go back in time and slap myself silly, I would.