I forgot who he posted it to, kat maybe, but I think lodo pasted a link to a site of a woman that said basically the same thing.
I remember thinking that it was a little depressing at the time. Something we don't like to think about. That the WAS won't be coming back and we have to accept that.
I can hope, can't I?
I think so. I argued a bit with Lodo about that link when he provided it, b/c I thought it was too pessimistic. Seemed to say that it's over, get on with your life, your WAS is gone for good. Well, I know there are some people though: I have a family member whose WAS came back and are still married, and some here Puppy, Saffie, and Gfactor for example that have been able to work it out.
I do think Lodo's right that maybe DR is a little overly optimistic, but I don't think having too much hope is a bad thing or I think I would have given up before I began--and I am a better person through this. I really would like maybe to get a more balanced view b/w those 2, b/c maybe the truth is somewhere in the middle. Not hopeless, but some WAS come home and some don't? I mean I think a lot depends on the OP, mid-life crisis stuff, (I think God), timing, etc. I really don't think my H is ever going to return, (don't know that would work out anyway), but I do think God does miracles, so you shouldn't ever completely count it out. Karen
Oh, I forgot to add I got all my paperwork turned in to the L just now! Hurray! She called me when I got home and thanked me, and asked about the appliances H was supposed to get (stove & refrigerator). I told her the last conversation we had was he was going to talk to his friend (who owns a store) about setting up a payment plan for me to pay for them. My L wasn't too happy about that, so she is going to call H's L about that. More battles on the horizon I think; but I just try to remain above it all and blame the L! Karen
Realism is fine, but hope is what got us to this site in the first place and is the only thing that keeps you going when things seem terrible and insurmountable. Whether it is hope for restoring your M, or hope that you can restore your life after D (that's where I was), don't be afraid to hope.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
Oops! You know who I meant, G! Cut me some slack--I spent the last day and a half doing D paperwork & not much sleep!!!! I'm weirdly feeling a little happy now that I've got that done--so weird when I'm not thrilled about the D, but I guess when it's all over hopefully there will be some relief at the end....Karen
Hey karen, just checking in on you, you seem to be doing well and I'm glad to see that
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Not hopeless, but some WAS come home and some don't? I mean I think a lot depends on the OP, mid-life crisis stuff, (I think God), timing, etc. I really don't think my H is ever going to return, (don't know that would work out anyway), but I do think God does miracles, so you shouldn't ever completely count it out. Karen
I feel the same way as you, there is always hope but I don't think my W is ever going to return and if she did I don't know if it would work out either. So hope W will return and we will reconcile 1%. Hope I'll move on with my life, find someone wonderful and I'll live happy ever after 99%
Our WAS know where we are at, if they want to reconcile we are not hard to find.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
