Have you thought of the possibility that your W wants the kids and wants to play supermom because she, too, is afraid of herself and the bad thoughts, etc that come when she is alone. The kids are a distraction. That could be good because it shows she still cares about the R somewhat enough to have distraught feelings about what is currently happening. Turn the bad into good.
NDS.....don't text. You don't need to know what she is doing. Who cares? So what if she hasn't contacted you? You have your own things to do!!!!
Me: 30 W: 27 Married: 9/2007 ILUBNILWU: 1/2008 W moved out 5/24/2008 W suicide 8/25/2009