losing sunshine but gaining happiness either way

[LosingSunshine]

Good Morning Jandn!

I'll stop by your thread here in awhile during lunch.

She is just trying look at all the bad, not the good, the past 4 years to give her reassurance of her justification of what she is doing is the right direction she needs to go. I dont think you have anything to worry about with the drinking.

My thought exactly. My L had a term for that....self-justification. Why work on M when she self-justifies her position. Not even her dear old friends can crack it. Influence of new friends? Don't know. Emotions, confusion, stubbornness all play a role too.

My L told me when I told him about W going out all the time said "well, if she is have somebody watch the kids while she is going out, then thats what you need to document. As far as when she doesnt have the kids, it doesnt really matter what she is doing"..

My L pretty much said document everything. After she moves out tomorrow, who cares what she does when she doesn't have the kids but when she does, it matters. Right now and for the past 30 -40 days, it is all relevant based on the SD statute governing determination of the primary caregiver as the one who provided the majority of care for the 30 days prior to the motion.

Remember the saying "Believe nothing you hear, and only 50% of what you see!"

I love this saying. Easier said then done in the beginning but the more you say it to yourself, the more you begin to believe it and the easier it is to live it.