Some of the things you say in your posting are almost mirror to things my H has said to me. Part of this whole process is working on yourself for you...with your W being the second party. Ultimiately, it is about resolving the marital differences, and trying to figure out what you were doing that did not work. It is the hope that by backing off and giving space, the WAS will see that you are serious about making the changes and sticking to them.
But it does not happen overnight...and so you have to be prepared for the long haul. It is a journey of self discovery, and self awareness. It is about making yourself the best you for you AND your spouse.
And it is about finding faith...the faith that no matter what, everything will be okay...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
