losing sunshine but gaining happiness either way

[jandn]

She is just trying look at all the bad, not the good, the past 4 years to give her reassurance of her justification of what she is doing is the right direction she needs to go. I dont think you have anything to worry about with the drinking.

My L told me when I told him about W going out all the time said "well, if she is have somebody watch the kids while she is going out, then thats what you need to document. As far as when she doesnt have the kids, it doesnt really matter what she is doing".

Remember the saying "Believe nothing you hear, and only 50% of what you see!"