It sounds like he is just down on himself now, so he's backing off a bit. It may not have anything to do with how things are going with your reconciliation. I would try to let him have his space. You've let him know that you don't like things the way they are and IMO, that's a good move.
My h has also been bad about agreeing on a schedule for counseling. We had a 6 week gap and now it's been another 2 weeks. It's frustrating, but I try to be grateful for when we do go.
