Jak, I agree that there is no proof regarding physical intimacy elsewhere. Some who post on my thread are convinced of it (smoking gun theory).
Until she and I have a discussion about it, I will never understand the dynamics of what's going on with her sleeping elsewhere. How much is it her issues, and how much relational? I don't know.
I therefore will put my energy into what I have influence over--developing the dance partnership, cultivating my own happiness, managing my own emotions, cultivating poetry as an interest.
I can only go on what she communicates to me. She clearly wants to dance with me. If she wants intimacy, I can't tell. I need a sign.
One gets the sense though that there is desire lurking beneath the surface on both parties. If this is true, then it will reveal itself in subtle ways. I have to be vigilant and opportunistic. This is like dating all over again.
I'll look for opportunities to cultivate intimacy outside the dance R--watching movies, complimenting her appearance.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
