I am not sure how you can find and offer W an alternative that will bring her closer to you but I can see that your procrastination is making her seek alternative solutions.
anyway just somthing for you to think about.
Lanzo
Lan, This isn't a time to be losing my head, or overcome by fear. There are positives in my situation, and I think increasing potential for intimacy.
I think the developing dance partnership has huge potential. This is not a casual relationship. She is invested in our development as dance partners.
She sees me in a different light on the dance floor. Last night, while practicing, she commented that my arms were getting muscular. I'm not lifting weights, or doing anything different with my exercise routine, but she is looking at me different these days due to the dancing.
Dancing cultivates the very qualities that have been lacking--confidence, connection, leadership, communication, play. This is therapy for me, and preparation in my opinion for intimacy in the R.
What I'm taking from your posts is that I need to look for opportunities to move things forward. I think it's going to be in the form of compliments about her appearance or spending quiet time with her, watching a program or movie.
She had her new couch delivered yesterday, and rearranged the entertainment room to be more hospitable. The couch is now in front of the large-screen television. Before, she would sit at her computer, while I sat on the couch. This will offer an opportunity to sit together.
I'm looking for signs from her. I keep thinking of the guy in the movie theater, looking for the right time to put his arm around his date. Does she want him to advance or not? If only she would give him a sign. Is he missing any signs?
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
