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[The Wifey]

(((Neil, SmartCookie, So Far Away, sgctxok, Ian, anyone I missed)))

Discussion with my son was ok. At first he didn't want me to come over, but I bought him some phish food (Ben & Jerry's ice cream) and showed up anyways. He laughed when he saw me with the ice cream and said, "I had a feeling you would show up anyways." We kept it light, he talked some about his xgirlfriend. Mostly I just let him know I was there, I was concerned about and loved him, and had a little light conversation with him.

Last night when I first went home I was reading. It got to be about 7:30 and the H had not come home yet. Rather than sit there and worry I went to a park by the lake and read until 8:30, then called my son.

After I left from visiting with my son I went home. It gave me a scared feeling that the h still wasn't home but I was determined not to let him know or react in any way. And I didn't. I just said hi and kept myself busy in the kitchen when he arrived just a couple minutes later. Then I asked if he wanted me to make us hot dogs or burgers on the grill because I hadn't eaten yet.

We ended up just microwaving a couple of dogs for him and one for me. Then he told me he'd gone to see a movie, Batman. I said how cool is that? I heard it was a great movie with little build up and it gets right into the action. He seemed surprised a bit, but he said yeah, he wouldn't mind seeing it again. I said I'd like to go see it at the drive-in some time.

I was so calm and cool you would think I was DB'ing for years. (Surprised and proud of myself, guys.)

Had a couple glasses of wine and then we went to our separate rooms. That part was hard. But I acted like it was no big deal. Just, good night.

In the morning I climbed into the shower with him. : ) I was rewarded with several kisses and this little snuggle thing he does with his nose where he kind of lightly nuzzles me around my nose. (I can't explain it.) Then he said I'll let you finish your shower and got out to shave.

We had coffee together and then another kiss and hug before he left.

I'm reading "Getting Through to the Man You Love" by Michelle. Ladies, if you haven't read it, please do. I can see when he did spend time with me over the past two months I would "reward" him by being sad afterwards. Not exactly the response that would encourage him to spend more time.

I need to reward every single baby step like it is the greatest thing I've ever seen. (And most of them are!)

I didn't react last night and I feel better. More importantly, he feels better this morning. I can see how this can continue to improve.

I know this book is for women, but I think men that have WAW's should consider reading it, because many of the principals apply equally in a relationship. I am going to order a copy, because the one I am reading is on loan from my C. I need to own this book.