You know, I've been so wrapped up in the pain that I hadn't noticed the baby steps. Reading "How to Get Through to the Man You Love" I can see times when he did spend time with me and then I acted sad. He went somewhere with me and then later I was sad.
I was telling him that what he wasn't doing was more important that what he did by my actions. I needed to encourage every single baby step and show him, not tell him, how much I enjoyed every minute with him.
By just being happy when you do see her you will encourage her Neil. If you backslide and look unhappy when you are with her, that makes her associate time with you with unhappiness.
I'm glad I'm coming out of the fog and see you are "unfogged" also. Keep doing what you are doing. Keep loving and being a friend. Be patient, wars aren't won overnight.
And the spoils of war are fun to enjoy. This DB is a little like a war, don't you think?
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
