Moving here from infidelity. H moved out April 13, almost 4 months ago. I think it has been hard for both of us to realize we are separated. I mean he has no problem pursuing or sleeping or even living with another woman, but I AM HIS WIFE.
Currently the story is that there is little no no contact with OW. I've heard that story before, even when he was living there. Maybe I believe it a little this time. Maybe I don't, maybe I have been this stupid everytime I was told that for the last 7 months.
It is wearing thin. I just want to move in some direction. In the entire time H has been gone he has had no plan(other than to try to convince OW to move to a house with him-he denies it). He slept at her house, he slept in his car, I allowed him to sleep on my couch for a week after magically when I discovered he was living at her house he had nowhere to go. For the last month he has lived at his parents.
I got a call last night at my house for him - from the low income co-operative housing. They would not leave a message and were quite rude when i asked what they wanted after I told them No Mr. White lives here. So I guess now he does have a plan.
If he moves there I worry about my daughter visiting. Last year an entire family was killed in one of the houses because of fire alarms not working due to the electric not being paid,. seeing as they are low income houses 2 of the other houses caught fire at the same time. Everyones kids are always out playing in the nearby area while the parents sit on the steps and smoke and drink.
Once again I sit in awe that this is what my H has chosen for his life. I really must be a prize that this is the better choice. We have a beautiful home and a lot of nice things. We had fun. We had a family.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
