I am glad you can recognize those baby steps.....they add up. I know what you mean about the super mom thing though it may be more of a martyr thing. My W would get sick and then lay on the couch and complain that the kids were crawling all over her. I would try to get her to go to the other end of the house and sleep but she wouldn't, she would just complain that she "couldn't be sick"
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning