Oh, my story is far from unique. Classic really. We were married for 10 years. I was busy with kids and not busy enough with him, KWIM? He felt neglected and found someone who paid more attention to him. He convinced himself things would be perfect with his new love and couldn't wait to get divorced so he could start his new life.
I read DB and about a thousand other books trying to work things out, figure things out, understand what had happened. Now, we're divorced, he's alone, and he's calling me to ask advice on how to work things out with his girlfriend.
I swear I should go into counseling. If my XH will call me to ask advice regarding his love life, I must have a knack. Funny, when I first started college, I was thinking of going into psychology. I thought all the instructors were nuts, so I switched to something more practical. I should have stuck with psych.
But, I guess if I'm such a great student of human nature, I shouldn't have such a hard time coming clean about my marital status. It just seems, like some of you have said, that EVERYONE is married. I don't like going to school functions alone. One of my kids is starting a new school this fall and I HATED going through orientation alone. I called XH and told him I was mad at him. (ha ha) He said, "go ahead, tell me, what did I do now?"
I guess, in some ways, it's nice to have it all negotiated and finalized. Nothing more to fight over. He got the visitation schedule he wanted, and I got the support I wanted. I think we get along pretty well now, better than we have for a long time. That's understandable though, I suppose. I even invited him to go camping with me and the kids, but he said his gf would not approve. She's no fun. ha ha. Maybe I should invite her too.
Except for my cyber buddies, I don't have any divorcd friends. I have unhappily married friends, I have happily married friends, but no divorced friends. Parents married 50 years. Brothers and sisters married. Does that make me the black sheep? If I can't tell which one of us it is, it must be me. he he.
I'll get over it, I know, with time, just like everything else. Just one of those things I guess. Just thinking of the next time I see her, my daughter's friend's mom. "Um, gee, i guess I should tell you that I'm divorced. I still have a hard time admiting it. Sorry if I was confusing the other day."
Rambling, I know. I should say good night.
Good night all
I'm not an expert, but I've been there. And I survived.
