losing sunshine but gaining happiness either way

[LosingSunshine]

FG, thx for stopping by agains and sharing your wisdom. It is greatly appreciated.

Is her R with OW a dealbreaker? I hate to say that I am torn but I am. Some days yes...others no. Will the 2200 txts that I get to read next week change my mind either way? Most likely. If it is a PA will my L push to ammend the counterclaim? Probably. What's odd is I have no desire to confront OW about it though. I hold out hope for my W and M yet I am so prepared to move on because of OW. I am just so focused on my kids and doing what is best for them and myself that frankly I don't even care and it doesn't bother me. What bothers me is worrying about how the hearing will go and will I get what I want with the kids. Will my past drinking, againg nothing abusive as a result just too frequent, be too large an obstacle to overcome even though there are statutes regarding temp custody based on 30 days prior to filing? My l thinks we are good to go with my golden notes, soon to be coming subpoenaed txts and some insurance that will be kicking in to gear soon. Who knows. Side note... Her dad was an abusive drunk and my W wanted to drink but couldn't because of the kids

What also worried me was how the kids would handle my W in a R with a OW. My c helped me there and although it's not ideal they will be fine and as he said more open minded and the sexuality will not impact them negatively but bad behaviours will, but that can happen if it was OM.

I also think you are right about my attitude and holding my head high and thx for picking that up in my posts.

It's getting late and need to get to bed. I'll respond more tomorrow.

Chris .