OOH, my first cocktail as hostess of my own thread. I've been lurking around for a while. Like hanging out at a party somewhere near the door so I can make a quick exit if anyone notices me.
Mangotini sounds delish. Maybe I'll have the same.
Jen, that must be so rough...even your parents don't know? wow. I don't know what I'd do without my parent's support. They've been great through all of this. Even XH's parents have been very kind. Hang in there.
KLM and Princess...wow, hadn't even thought about the name change issue. I've gotten so used to my married name, can't imagine what would be involved in changing back to my maiden name. Heck, no one would know me.
JMC. Thanks for the post. It's good to hear a man's perspective. My X calls to chat often these days. Usually about missing the kids and feeling so alone. Before we got divorced, he didn't seem to think is was all such a big deal. He convinced himself the kids would be fine, they would adjust. His gf was divorced and I think she had him convinced it wasn't so bad. Now I think he knows how bad it really is. He's alone in a little apartment, she's no longer sure she wants to get married. He tells me too much, but that's another story.
Kimmie, I know I don't have anything to be ashamed of, but I just don't want to go into the details. I guess I'm afraid someone might ask about it, what happened, etc. I just don't want to go into it. Another thing is that I don't like talking about it in front of the kids. My little one was sitting right next to me and I just choked. I have worked so hard to protect his image in their eyes. I think it's very important for kids to respect their parents. Once they get old enough to form their own opinions, they will. I don't want to color their view.
Jak. Very sorry you're heartbroken. We all have our war wounds. Good luck with your continued healing.
I'm not an expert, but I've been there. And I survived.
