losing sunshine but gaining happiness either way

[LosingSunshine]

Thx LFW and FG!!! I will respond to your posts either later tonight or when I get to work in the am. I just need a moment to somewhat reflect on our talk tonight.

Tonight went from good to W getting angry and emotional. Dinner went very well and afterwards I played with the kids outback on the playground. W was out back for a short while then went in. Guess she couldn't stand the fun we were having. When we got in age have the kids a bath and I left to pick up the birthday cake from a friends. My friend did an awesome job on an allergy free Dora cake from scratch.

I get back and 4d saw it and just lit up. W was indifferent but I caught her looking at it later. Anyway, she was splitting 2s clothes up 50/50 and when she was done we talked.

She started going through the state guidelines and realized that those are at 42 percent before you throw in a few extra days. All in all the convo was off to a good start and heck, she had a draft of the settlement from her l that she got yesterday. Now, it all went downhill because she wants me to have only visitation now and not residence. She started to get angry and emotional, threw stuff in my face such as I have raised these kids the last four years, I will fight you and bring up all the stuff from the past ie drinking and so forth. I kept my cool and tried to validate when I could and actually had to tell her to take a breather. She accused me of being manipulative again but said she knows it is not intentional. We were obviously at an impasse and I told her this is what I want, put what you think is fair for the kids in the doc and have it sent to my L. Not much if any DB opportunity in the talk tonight. She wants me to pay full support and I want joint residency which will allow for support to be modified based on time with kids. She accused me also of only thinking of my wallet which isn't the case. This is our home and I want to keep it for the kids. She has also been interchanging visitations and residence all along so I never know what she's thinking even if I repeat it to her. She's also not listening which sucked again. Didn't hear what I said 5 minutes earlier in the conversation.

Sidenotes...her cell was buzzing most of the talk and it was very distracting. I was wrapping presents at the very beginning but was focused more on her and we were at the same table.

So, she washed up after the talk and popped into my room a few minutes ago to let me know she was heading out for a few hours to think. Any bets she's going to OW?


Oh, she also flung the I have to live in an income sensitive townhouse community...that's how bad I want out. I wanted to say something but just listened.

Chris