Help...I think I did a 180...I hope

[Sophie]

Wow, Jeff...you have 4 sons...and two are the same age as mine!

I was also thinking that if he isn't serious...then I will have done all I can do, he can't blame me for being the obstacle.

I've already proven that the other times...and he doesn't remember or know that...but, maybe he's growing out of his MLC after all this time??

I wanted to add a part of our conversation from earlier in the day, at least for me to remember when I re-read this.

This morning he accused me of never getting enough prasie. That he, nor my friends, have ever been able to please me enough.

That really hurt...I said, 'WOW...how would anyone ever want to be around me???" It really bugged me. I felt accused of being a controlling b-t-c-h!

When I later suggested to H that he and the kids have a dinner alone, no problem, he seemed a tad,....shocked, I think.

I Tm-d him later: 'I believe it is important that you reconnect w/the kids. I don't believe I am as controlling over you, the kids, or my friends, as you make me out to be....also, I'm sorry you feel the way you do about me and family but that's your free will. I don't agree but I know I will be fine no matter what.'

H tm: I'm not sure how to respond....

Me tm: 'It's simply that you don't really know me...too much time has passed and too much has happened in my life since you left'

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Not sure if I should have said all that, but it's part of today's story.

Also, S13 said that brother asked dad if he would go to church with us.

Dad said 'I'm thinking about it'.

(earlier in his conversation w/me, H didn't want to do any family things w/me)

Well...it's typically, noncommital...but, it's not 'silence' or negative.

So...like you say...we'll see what happens....