YEs, I understand totally. I wanted a crystal ball. I needed to know the outcome but that was not to be. You can only live one day at a time.
Just remember that sometimes they don't tell us how they really feel about OW. Or they keep us in Limbo Land because they really don't want to hurt us. And everything they do hurts us so much. And they can't stand that. But wouldn't you rather know the truth than to go on forever like this?
As far as Knowledge is Power - yes, I used to think this too. Until a fellow DBer spied on her H with OW often. She read all his emails and his VMs. It has been 7 years. She STILL does it. It hurts her and keeps her from moving forward. So, I'm not sure its the right thing to do. It's like opening a healing wound. And you keep bleeding.
Maybe your informant wants to keep your hopes alive because that is what you want. Just think about that.
