Well, you're following your plan, right? That's good.
I think Twindad hit the nail on the head, though I have to tell you, we're not experts on your husband or his psychology. But that said, it does sound like he's simultaneously feeling guilty and defensive. He'd like to justify his actions, and he'd like to change the subject to the things you've done wrong to hurt him, but he can't stop thinking about what he's doing wrong. Not to make excuses for him or try to drum up sympathy, but I'm sure he's completely miserable.
