There is so much going on at the moment I'm not sure where to start.
OK, money worries, the bank was very good to me, they helped me and actually said I am one of their better customers (even though I'm really in debt to them.) So on that front I have some breathing space. I told W that after our holiday to Barcelona we will have to tighten our belts and also have a frank discussion about out finances. She agreed.
The house is like a builders yard at the moment, but the renovation work is progressing. If I took stab in the dark, me not renovating the house was at the core of our problems although it wasn't the only thing. (Lan not renovating the house shows he doesn't care). But we are working together on this project and W is very happy so that is good progress.
FIL seems quite upbeat at the moment despite his health problems, he's not decided yet if he will take the operation but if he does it won't be until September. W has got herself together on this issue, MIL still looks very sad but I think we will all pull together. Well apart from W and SIL, they have still not yet manage to repair their relationship fully. They seem to be keeping each other at arms length, it's not nice to see but I am not going to intervene even though I'm hearing both sides of the story.
Sandi on my health I found a small lump when I did my regular Mens Health check. The Doc who examined me doesn't think it anything serious but is sending me for a scan as a precaution. The scan itself will be interesting, a nurse with my (censored) in one hand and a gel covered ultrasound probe in the other. Will really be interesting. But anyway I'm not letting the family know yet as I don't want to add to all of the worries if I can avoid it.
Also you say that I am strong, well sometimes I feel weak and inadequate, but I try not to show this outwardly. Also I pray now, funny but it helps me to tackle the difficult situations ahead. So yes I will take your advice and take things one day at a time.
Hey Lan, you forgot about me and I have no links to my threads anymore... (teasing)
On a serious note, I am always thinking of you and I know things will be fine. We can't worry about things we can change or things that can't be changed, right?
BTW, I would share with my W/H my medical not probable issue. Love K
Oh that nurse has seen so many, you probably won't even impress her.....lol. On the other hand.......(no pun intended)
Well, just don't wait too long to say something to your W. I have to deal with a H that won't talk to me about his health problems, Lan, and it drives me nuts. You know, he had open heart surgery about 8 years ago and never goes back for a check up! This is not good! Now I am seeing signs that I first saw before he had his surgery and it worries me a lot. But, I can't get him to go see a doctor b/c he says nothing is wrong. It causes a lot of frustration for me and makes me angry at him. I know he thinks he is protecting me.....just like you are trying to protect your W. Even though she is going through the deal with her dad.....she is probably not as fragile as you may think. She would want to know if something serious is going on with you. So, please, when you find out the results, don't keep it from her. And, for gosh sakes, don't refuse to do whatever they tell you to do. Years ago, I knew a man who had to have some type of radiation for a similar problem, and he never had any more problems.....and that was many years ago before they had the newer technology. Not trying to make light of your situation, but just saying to get that thing taken care of and don't put off. Okay? Doctors say that is the secret to being safe is get it taken care of early. Besides, we all know you are looking forward to seeing that nurse!
P.S. So glad things are working out about the money. Maybe that is a good sign that everything is on its way up. We are going to believe that anyway! Take care of yourself, sweetie.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I really take mens heath seriously which is why I found this small lump so soon. I have done some readings on the internet about similar conditions and I am much less worried than I was last week so I will let W know about my appointment.
Money (or lack of it) always stresses me out but if I look at in the same positive way you have maybe the bank helping me out is a sign that things are changing for the better.
Well we will see.
Hi Kalni,
I will get back to you and sort out all of your links, my problem at the moment is I have them all stored on my home computer which I have packed away while the building work is going on. I promise I will get back to you, and I do follow your smiling sunshine story. I will talk to you soon on it, but at least you are moving in a good direction.
I will get back to you and sort out all of your links, my problem at the moment is I have them all stored on my home computer which I have packed away while the building work is going on. I promise I will get back to you, and I do follow your smiling sunshine story. I will talk to you soon on it, but at least you are moving in a good direction. Lan
I was just teasing. Not much "to link" anyway. Don't worry about that. But I do miss hearing from you from time to time. We should watch a soccer game again sometime soon...
I really take mens heath seriously which is why I found this small lump so soon.
Bless your heart! You are about the only man I know that does.....not that I talk about these things with just any man, but you know what I mean. I am so glad you have decided to tell your W and if you are not worried, maybe she won't panic. I hope not anyway.
I will be praying that everything will be fine. Let us know as soon as you can.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
If I took stab in the dark, me not renovating the house was at the core of our problems although it wasn't the only thing. (Lan not renovating the house shows he doesn't care).
Lan, I had a similar experience, tho' I wouldn't say its at the core of your problems. The communication pattern is closer to the core; its really like an onion you peel from the outside to get at the core; you've made a lot of progress my friend. I agree w/ Sandi that W needs to be in on that lump; let her play nurse.
(teasing)