H4H, I think you did good!!! My H has alternated sending me cold & business-like emails with outright nasty ones sometimes. I try to reply back and most of the time reply with a light tone and joky, usually a joke or 2. I have started deleting most of my smily faces on the advice of others here. Definitely the last month or so since he filed for D maybe he is doing better with me, a bit nicer and friendlier. Maybe I'm wearing him down with my niceness/jokes??? Who knows though...Karen