Blog #2

[Shelby]

Thanks so much Dance Queen, I am definitely going to have to go and pick me out one.

Here is the thing and this is so embarrassing and personal and before all of this separation talk started with me, I would never dream of discussing this anywhere or with anyone. But now I am putting myself out there in alot of ways. So here goes.

I don't have orgasms. There I said It.
I don't think there is anything that I want more. I just can't seem to make it happen. I can get right to that point but then something happens and I loose it, it never happens. I am sure you are thinking that I must be frigid or that I don't enjoy sex. That is NOT the case at all. I love having sex. I masturbate quite frequently.( I know more information then you needed to know, But now that I am baring my soul I might as well go with it.) I do enjoy sex and I am not afraid to try new things. I do own some vibrators, although not the one you suggested. YET.

I think, NO, I know, that is our main problem. My Husband just obsesses over this fact, that he can't give me an orgasm. And I know he has every reason too. But I think if we could just relax and enjoy ourselves instead of always thinking... is This going to be the time. A lot of the time I don't think he is enjoying himself, he is so consumed with trying to make it happen...This is just so sad. So now he wants a separation and I know what the main reason is...I can't have an orgasm.

I have tried reading books, I went to a sex therapist, everything is in working order down there. I don't know what else to do. I will not give up though. I will have one some day. hopefully sooner than later. I can't let may marriage end over this when everything else we have is so good.

Shelby