Hi Snodderly, Thank you for your continuous support and advice, I appreciate it so much.
I will think about it and rewrite it. I am not in a hurry.
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Also, if he's out there purchasing and selling property right now, you are entitled to half of it because there is no legal separation in place. You are still entitled to half of the property he's been haggling over w/you for a couple of months.
This matter is settled and in process. I will get my share for sure. I guess that's why H is still angry. You are right, as long as we are not legally separated, I am intitled to half. That's why I suggested a legal separation, so he need not worry about it anymore.
Anyway, it is a beautiful day again, and I don't want to stay at home. I am quite sad again at this moment. That's why I have decided to go somewhere nice and treat myself to a nice lunch or dinner.
On Monday I had a super day out. I went on a boat trip and met a friend in the evening. I was quite happy. Then I got bashed on the head again by H's e-mail. Oh well, although I am quite depressed, I will have to pick myself up again and will get over this as well.
Sometimes I have the feeling it would have been better to get D last year, when the D was in process. It would have already been behind me, and I could move on.
I am sorry you are going thru all of this. Snodderly is right, you would be entitled to half.
And if he is the one who wants a D, let him do all of the work.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hi Steelers, Nice of you to check in on me. I will let H do all the work re D for sure. He did it already once before. Take care.
Journaling: I had quite a nice day. I went to the water front, but to a place I have not been for a long time. I enjoyed some ice cream and coffee and cake. Afterwards I met my male friend and we went for a drink. It started to pour and we had to run for cover. Afterwards I drove home.
I have not yet replied to H. It can wait as I am not in a hurry.
My sisters are coming on Friday, and I will have to do some clearing up and cleaning. But first I will go swimming, as today I did not feel like it. It is supposed to be a very hot day tomorrow.
Just thought that MIL does not contact me anymore. I guess H told her his version of the story, and why he cannot come back.
I was reading your thread and am STILL so amazed how similar our sitchs are! What star sign is your H?
After H left he came back home for a few days to help me with some things before he left for good. I also said to him that I was frightened I would not see him anymore. He replied "you will". Well, he even went to a completely different part of the world. I only saw him again after one year, although he e-mailed me often. The longest he could go without writing to me was 4 weeks, I think. But he only phoned me twice during the whole time.
He also used to treat me in a special way on my birthday and told me that I am somebody special. On the last b'day before he left, he did not give me anything special, but he wrote in the b'card "To the only woman I ever really loved". Half a year later he was gone!
I found out over a year later that H treated OW for her birthday which is after mine with huge presents, and all her following b'days as well! His recent excuse for not treating me like this was that I would have complained at how much money he spent!!! (Mind you, I did complain sometimes about how much money he spent, but he spent it mostly on HIM!)
When he asked me recently what I would like for my b'day, I said to start with "not much", but then I changed my mind and said, I would like a certain piece of jewellery. He then told me that it was too late to get it! However, he did pay for dinner which I initially invited him for. He complained all the time during my recent stay with him that he had to be careful with money. However, I found out through a friend that he was sending OW an expensive Christmas present and paid for all kinds of things, since she demanded it! Oh well, enough of venting.
I had another super day today and finally went swimming again. Tomorrow afternoon my sisters will come for a few days.
I did complain about H spending so much money also & yes he spent it on himself more. Of course for Xmas 2006, he did buy me an SUV & a leather jacket. The SUV was a 2007 Denali. Then he met OW in June.
My H's sign is Aquarius. What sign is your H?
I know my H spent 200.00 on OW b'day last year, not sure how much for Xmas. He spent over 300.00 for mine last year. He may have gotten her something else that I didn't know about. I just knew he took that 200.00 out of our joint acct.
It sure is hard, isn't it???
I'm so glad you had a wonderful day! It must be so nice to go swimming. It is so hot & humid here, some rain but not much.
Hi nlt, Just a short post. - Oh, your H was very generous!
Thanks, I had a super week-end. The weather was great apart from Friday evening, when it raind and we wanted to sit outdoors. But yesterday and today was so beautiful and also warm again. My sisters and I had a good time together, and we laughed a lot. We also went out a few times, to make up for the time we sat at home on our own.
After they left I went for a quick swimm. This evening was just so beautiful. There was not a single cloud in the sky and the water was so still. However, the sun sets earlier again, which means the days are already getting shorter!!! I don't particularly like that.
I still have not replied to H's e-mail, as I am in no hurry to do so. I think I will wait until he writes again.
I hope you had a nice week-end as well. Take care.
hi truelove, good to see your enjoying life and getting out and about, have to say I wish I lived near you, there seems so many fun and lovely things to get out and about to do. also I am pleased that you are being strong with your h, I think you should make him wait for a reply also, yes maybe wait until he contacts you again. let him stew. take care, hugs.
Nice of you to drop in. Oh, the area I live in is lovely but sometimes, especially when I am alone, I am quite bored. There are only fun things to do when the weather is nice. I have to think really hard where to go if it rains.
I hope you are fine these day and will have a lovely holiday. Take care.
Journaling: I was a bit down today, as it rained most of the day. If it will still rain tomorrow, I must think of somewhere to go - maybe a museum would be nice.
I really need to join a club, or else I will never get to know anybody with the same interests, and who I would like to spend some time with.
My friend whom I met again after many years is on holiday this week. I hope that the guy I went sailing with will invite me again this week, if it stops raining.
I have not contacted H, and he has not written again.
