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[ms ladybug]

OK. Let's see if I can update this:
Last week (Thurs.) H goes to look at houses in Santa Maria and I go to my sisters up north (sac area). I get a call that night and h says, "I just wanted to tell you that I'm thinking about you right now."
Well, I guess I'm a little slow, so I say, "that's really sweet."
He says, "Don't you get it. I told you I'm thinking about you."
I said, "yes. I heard you. That's really nice."
So, he gets a little frustrated and just goes right on into exactly WHAT he was thinking of (x-rated).
OOHHHH!
So, the next day he sent a couple really nice texts throughout the day. I took the kids to the Jelly Belly factory and had a nice time visiting my sis. That evening, he sends me a text with a certain picture that says "I miss you". So, we get into sending pictures back and forth for a bit. It was something I'd normally NEVER do, but it was kinda fun.

Sat. he calls and tells me about a couple houses he saw in Santa Maria, and how he talked to a real estate agent. I told him that I still am taking my stand on NOT MOVING until we work on the marriage. IT'S SO SIMPLE!! I JUST DON'T KNOW WHY HE CAN'T UNDERSTAND THAT. So, he's mad, and pretty soon it turns into an arguement. I'm now sitting in my car in front of sis's house getting angry. It's 11:00pm and my s2 is STILL up. I want to go inside and get him into bed, but h is still on the phone, still yelling. So, I shouldn't have done this, but I told him I needed to get s2 to bed, and I'll call him later (no intentions of really calling). So, he agrees.

Needless to say he's even more mad the next day. I lied to get him off the phone, and didn't call him back like I said. I just HAD ENOUGH of listening to him talk about how much he doesn't think I support him, and he's trying to lead, etc...

This thread would be forever long if I went into the rest of our interactions this week. Let's just say that I'm so sick of how he doesn't get it. He tells me that he wants to work on not being so critical of me. and then yesterday he calls me at work to tell me the car is a mess. Then, again 2 more times last night about how the car is a mess. I mean super-critical frustrated, angry about it. Throwing about explitives, and throwing his phone down, etc... Way over reacted because the kids had books and a couple toys in the car from our trip this weekend.
We had dinner with his parents last night, and where going to get ice cream afterwards. H got mad, get this, at his dad because he didn't get the taillights repaired in his car and asked us to follow him to ice cream. H had to go home and refused to go with us....because of tail lights. Not kidding.
His anger is weird and scary.
I understand being mad at me because I lied, but tail lights? A messy car? Life's too short for this nonsense.

I don't want to walk on eggshells. He's not going to change.
I know where I went wrong, and I apoligized. We talked about it. He was OK. Until...