She shut the door to the bonus room? Is that the room she sleeps in? Uses the computer in?
Try not to overanalyze everything she does. And, the next time someone parks across from your house and sits, call the cops. Tell them your a "neighborhood-watch" kinda guy and you don't recognize the car or the person in it. For all you know, he could be staking out the house to burglarize. Watching who comes and goes, etc... It's a very legit excuse to call them.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
She shut the door to the bonus room? Is that the room she sleeps in? Uses the computer in?
Try not to overanalyze everything she does. And, the next time someone parks across from your house and sits, call the cops. Tell them your a "neighborhood-watch" kinda guy and you don't recognize the car or the person in it. For all you know, he could be staking out the house to burglarize. Watching who comes and goes, etc... It's a very legit excuse to call them.
Nope, she uses the computer in there, she sleeps in "our" bedroom.. in the king size..she moved into the spare room originally, but i know she doesn't find that bed comfortable, so i offered to take it..
And yes the next time someone sits ( i know the car now).. i will call the cops..
Usually she leaves the bonus room door partially open so the cats and dogs can go free.. but she might have closed it so she could turn up the tv, keep the dogs from waking me.. no idea..
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
i think I am over analyzing because I lacked sleep last night.. after I fired off the email and I knew she was home and would check her email.. I could NOT sleep...
Now all i can think about is " can we give this another chance?" I know it's a big no-no.. and won't do it.. but keep thinking about it.
What about a personalized card saying something like " I meant what I said in the email & I miss you"
Nothing...nothing nothing. You said what you needed to say, give her some time to digest it.
I find that when I have no sleep and have not eaten, I get the same way. It's a sign that you need to take care of yourself, so your mind works properly.
(((Sawks))) Just breath...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I'm new to this board so hadn't really moved beyond posting to my own threads until now...I've been anxiously following your post as I think what you are saying in the letter is so amazing--exactly what we all want to hear from our loved ones right about now!
However, even though I've only been doing this a short time, I can DEFINITELY say that you should not check in with her, no card, no asking about whether she read the email. This would be way too pushy and needy. She knows how you feel, and if she wants to say something, she will. By you keeping quiet about it, you are showing her maturity, showing her that you meant what you said when you said you had no expectations. Maybe after a few days of this she will decide to say something...There is no way that the email didn't get to her in some way...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Nothing...nothing nothing. You said what you needed to say, give her some time to digest it.
I find that when I have no sleep and have not eaten, I get the same way. It's a sign that you need to take care of yourself, so your mind works properly.
(((Sawks))) Just breath...
Hey my thread is turning into a Jeff thread..well far from, but nearly LOL (ya I am tired, 4 hours maybe last night, couldn;'t stop thinking about the email)
tonight batman and then home to bed (but home to feed the dogs and cats first)
Nothing, dude! You can't mention it. Ever. She has to mention it first.
Yep I know better, letting my lack of sleep impair my judgement, i have come so far.. I said a prayer last night that she would look at it with her heart.. i am not really religious (i have beliefs and do the prayers , and i know that is what helped me get thru the first 2 months)
I have spoken to her today, just to let her know she locked one of the cats in the closet last night.. and he got out only because i went looking for a coat at 6AM.. ..
I'm new to this board so hadn't really moved beyond posting to my own threads until now...I've been anxiously following your post as I think what you are saying in the letter is so amazing--exactly what we all want to hear from our loved ones right about now!
However, even though I've only been doing this a short time, I can DEFINITELY say that you should not check in with her, no card, no asking about whether she read the email. This would be way too pushy and needy. She knows how you feel, and if she wants to say something, she will. By you keeping quiet about it, you are showing her maturity, showing her that you meant what you said when you said you had no expectations. Maybe after a few days of this she will decide to say something...There is no way that the email didn't get to her in some way...
ITH
Hi and welcome, too bad we meet under these conditions..
I agree no card no asking and so forth.. she knows how and what i feel.. she read it.. i would have liked to have been a fly on the wall.. (or maybe not)..
I will not even make a mention of it.. not a one, just continue doing what I am doing.. if she brings it up.. the door might be open a crack..
