Who I am is who I wanna be

[KarenMarieS]

Yup Bethie,
Remember when we talked I thought he was stickin his head out? well he maybe just a tad but not quite!
Ya know when Rys bed broke a few months ago, he dipped into his savings, and I did and we bought another mattress, we tm his dad and he dissapeared till everything was done. Such a twit he is

Yea! i love our quakes! lol well as long as no one gets hurt, ya know really and we say this all the time, yes they are scary but they realay only effect a very small percent of people, and thats rare w/ retrofitting ect.-- yes we feel them everywhere but they do not cause near the damage of hurricanes and twisters. Now if we could only get a quake warning, we'd be fine!

[KarenMarieS]

Hi Lissie!

Thank you! Yea I kinda like my son
he's a good s and w/him in school and doing well, I dont mind helping whenever I can.
Its harder now but you do what you can for your kids.
and yes ex does pay his tuition and we thank him! but we were the one who stressed an education to him all his life, he is doing what is expected and what he wants to become a responsible adult.

It was kinda sad but S dosnt mind too much Last summer his dad actually took him on the Cabo week, he had a blast! Well this year he is not invited, Ry said, hmmmm did I do something wrong? LOL he was laughin about it, but I said well, your dad prob cant afford the extra bungalow for you this year. I guess he wondered though, why last year and not this.

IMO I wouldnt of told S about the trip, why would my ex say I am off to mexico again, see ya when I get back. Why not just go and not say something? Its not like they talk too often S would of never of known.
Ex is a weirdo

[Committed2Him]

Hey Karen,

My fingers stopped trembling enough after the quake to write you.

Yeah, you pretty much described it correctly, quakes only affect a small number of people although this one lasted what seemed like an eternity. When I got home things had moved around a bit and the only damage I found was to one of the glasses from my wedding which I did not even realize I had. It was in a cabinet and had tipped over and broke. I actually laughed at the irony of it.

Probably like most people, when I feel one, I wonder "is this THE BIG one" but like everyone else you kind of look around, remain calm and hope it just passes. It is almost like every tries to be real cool like, "I am not scared, are you scared?"

Then, we forget about it after a few days.

Ok so about "twit," whacha gonna do? Ry seems to handle it well and as do you, it is what it is. Life is to good to get worked up and bothered for any period of time.

Have a GREAT weekend, you deserve it

(p.s. I hope X drinks the water )

[KarenMarieS]

Ha! I know C2, you were so calm, just " yea I'm cool you?" haha I bet you were shakin in your shoes!
and do you notice that everyone wants to tell you where they were and what they were doing? lol
its a cali thang i guess lol

Its funny last night, was at moms, as my sisters gang is down , we were looking at old pics I came across whilst cleaning out my closet,and of course ex is in a lot, ya know cause of that ol marriage thing!

My mom is so angry at him still, not a pic went by that she didnt have a comment , I honestly dont even think much. Part of me wishes she would let it drop, for her sake but then again I so understand, its still unreal to my parents that a so called man would do that to his family, beyond their comprehension that anyone could be so lacking in morals and self respect. NOT to metnion leave their wonderful D! LOL

When i got home tho, I found myself angry at ex!, like yea, he is a jerk! still havent gotten an apology! and this month has been hard financially. One of the leftover things I am dealing with.

But my sweet B called to say goodnight and all was right w/ the world again. I remembered then, " all things happen for a reason" he is by far much more of a man then ex could hope to be and i am a lucky girl!! and so is he if I do say so myself! lol

Sad news tho, he was at dinner w/ his D and the wedding is off for sure poor thing, but she is making the right decision, her fiance is just too imature and needs to get a handle on his drinking/spending.

Good for her for thinking straight about it. She ask B if he could keep the beautiful dress at his house as she would cry every time she looked at it. My heart broke for her.:(

B is going this week and help her buy some bedroom furn. for their house, they just bought a house together so they are still together just no M plans.He is going to C and may start AA.He is devastated but needs to straighten up!

We tho are still keeping our plans to go up north and spend a few days, we have the room booked and its beautiful -right on the coast at Pismo Beach.!! I cant wait till Oct!

Ok I am sooo ramblin, waiting for the gang to get ready, going house hunting and to lunch

Have a great weekend !

[Committed2Him]

I know what you mean. My dad is furious with my X but all it does is winds up hurting him and the my kids. He has missed out on some of the kids events he normally would have attended.

Just popped in and out chat more later. (Also it is interesting how another's anger can rile us up, huh? We need to be carefull.)

[BethM]

Man K,

I sure know what you mean. Looking at old pictures can be hard on everyone, but it is a part of who we are today, so what r ya' gonna' do? I just went through a box of crap that I had stored in the attic. There were lots of little clues in it of a life that wasn't what ex rewrote it to be. But ya' know what? It's their loss. Because it was a good life, full of love and hope. The nice thing was that I am at a place now where I can look back and know that without a doubt. No tears and no regrets!

They blew it and we both know that it does catch up with them eventually!!

Love you,
Bethie

[KarenMarieS]

Hey C2!

Yes it is very sad when the grandparents miss these precious times w/ the kids, I am not sure how things would of gone down if Ry were younger, as it is, so far its only been HS and College Grad and that was soooo spread out they didnt need to come face to face, cant imagine ever having a get together/party w/ ex family, actually ex family is too spread out and not all that supportive of Ry anyway


Hope you had a great weekend C!

Have to tell you my smart arse dad, a few times this weekend when we were sitting around the dinner table , eating or playing games my dad would yell,,WHO FELT THE QUAKE THIS WEEK?? so everyone would raise their arms and yell ME MEEEEE
my nephew and I were the only ones in So Cal who obviously have great equilibrium ! LOL hes a dork my dad

[No_More_Dodo]

They blew it and we both know that it does catch up with them eventually!!

Bethie,

That is so very true....

Take Care,

NMD

[KarenMarieS]

Hey Bethie!

Yea pics can be hard, but sure is a hellava lot easier then it was!

So I found out a lil interesting tidbit this weekend, my BIL said something , guess he thought I knew and its not a huge big deal but now I know why my ex is always going to Cabo, for weeks at a time, ( must be nice!) well seems he bought a time share there!

Kinda funny the man I barely could get to take a long weekend off for a family trip, bought himself a time share in another country!

The real funny thing is his poor mouthing all the time, Aint gonna fall for that! and here i felt a tinge of guilt over alimony and his share of Rys education!

Its not my buss. of course, and if thats how he wants to spend his money its his deal, personally I'd buy a home first lol but hey thats me and well a house of your own is repsponsiblity!

Next time I am waiting by the mailbox for my alimony or my check from my typing job , so I can go to the store for groceries, I will be thinking of him laying on the sandy beaches of Mexico! bllaaaa ;oP

[qoe100]

Next time I am waiting by the mailbox for my alimony or my check from my typing job , so I can go to the store for groceries, I will be thinking of him laying on the sandy beaches of Mexico! bllaaaa ;oP

What's this "typing job" all about. Was this on one of the emails I deleted without reading???? Spill.

As for X crying poor. You're talkin' to the choir here. I constantly have to read in the paper how great my X is at golf......doesn't it cost a bunch if you're doin it several times a week?