Thanks....I am not sure he noticed, though he watched me walk all the way from the door to my car...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
It is good to know he noticed, and I am sure right now he is wondering why I wasn't a blubbering mess...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I WILL promise you....there are good reasons for the rules.
Remember when you FIRST came here....how hurt and vulnerable you were? Remember how that STILL can be sometimes????
SOMETIMES....we spend a LOT of time on the board. There are folks that seem and maybe even are in the same shoes. Or we think....this person gets so much and is so wonderful....How COULD there spouse treat them this way.
We have friends of the same sex, friends of the opposite sex. I've been around literally 2 yrs from forever on this board.
Not everything/one is as we think it is.
And in person............well, we're shell-shocked putting it politely.
Or....
Our OWN situation isn't exactly what it seems to be to others. We THINK they get it and understand.
Whatever.
It isn't our purpose.
It's like therapy with someone we really trust. We get close to them.
I had a therapist once when I was going thru the divorce. (pre DB ) He was good looking. And so personable. And he gave me information I needed. Made me feel like I needed to feel.
We also had a mutual friend.
Oh well. But we had a structure and alimited number of sessions.
I can tell you I didn't necessarily need HIM. But I really wanted what he provided.
DB isn't MEANT to be permanent. It's meant to be a resource. A place to brainstorm....a place to get support.
It isn't a place to hook up....not that you are...this is a cool group.
It's a place to find as many SOLUTIONS as we can....and that's easier because we're invisible.
IMAGINE saying to your best gf....lose weight and grow your hair. I have needed to waaaaaaaay back when I was married....and a few pounds have creeped.....and it is time...and i've been working on it,...............bl ah blah blah.......but there are folks you can't say this to.
The people I know in real life, I would NEVER say.......knock it off, you're being a jerk! to. I say, Oh, you can do better, honey, or why do you let him treat you this way?
We can really help folks from our situations/perspectives. We can help them save their marriages.....and they can help us save ours.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
I'm an OLDTIMER... If you call me that....well, you've seen what, Glinda can do
I've met up with DBers. It was probably 2001. You will most likely be disappointed. It isn't your natural crowd. Nothing bad to say about anyone....lovely people. The 'virtual' people you need. Thank you God!!!!! for these people. It doesn't make it meant to be in real life. Or our in person, day-to-day lives.
And actually....those are not the reasons for the rules....that's my experience, and ease of enforcements.
The rules come from top down.....from seriously laid-back folks....you won't believe.......Michele and Virginia are truly the greatest people in real life ..... they ARE the reason I'm here.
Think back.....there's a seemingly ridiculous law somewhere in SC or NC about singing offkey. It's illegal. Can you imagine.
There was a REASON for the law. There was a HISTORY behind it.
I don't need the reason. I sing well. But I don't have perfect pitch (my D does, though...but IM LOUDER :).... you KNEW THAT though......) but there was a REASON. And somehow...it got serious enough to make into a law. Perhaps it could be repealed now...who knows.
There's a reason.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
